TL/DR: (More details below, obviously 😉)
	What: Practice sharing what you normally hold back and see how it actually lands in a safe, supportive environment so you can bring the real you forward. And start to see the ways you didn’t even realize you were wearing a mask. Why: You’re likely exhausted from masking, holding in, and stuffing down—it’s a constant drain on your energy that you might not even be aware of. But when you take the mask off and stop holding everything in… you’ll get so much energy back, and find new comfort and ease with how you relate with people. When:  TBA, from 11am to 3:30pm EST (Convert to your time-zone.) Registration Deadline: TBA, EOD How much:  166  /  Early 🦜 = 122 until TBA. (Details under ‘Cost’.) Limit: 8 people Questions? / How to apply: Take me to the application.

 

 

When we look at the Big Problem of Burnout, we tend to only look at the “macro” contributing factors: Too much work to do, not enough time, too little self-care. But if it were that simple, a few more vacation days would fix it. Right?

 

Burnout and exhaustion are more complicated than that, especially for neurodivergent professionals and facilitators, because we have micro drains on our personal batteries that are leaking energy All. The. Time:

• • • Masking

    • Social anxiety

    • Over-thinking/ruminating

    • Sensory sensitivities that we pretend aren’t bothering us

    • People-pleasing

    • FOPHU: Fear of people hating you (I made that up)

 

This can turn into feeling like you have to put on a show anytime you’re in public, including at work, or out with friends, or with your family. Putting on a show takes a lot of energy. Even professional performers only do a matinee and an evening performance AT MOST. But if you’re ‘acting’ for 10 hours a day…

 

Of course you’re burnt out. Anyone would be.

 

 

“I’m aware of a tendency to lose my centre when in connection with the other, to go into submission/pleasing mode and to hold back when it comes to expressing my truth… I may even lose sight of what it is.” past workshop participant

 

 

In this half-day mini-intensive, you and a small supportive group will practice getting out of your head, finding your voice, shedding your masks, getting more comfortable with vulnerability, and having meaningful, honest, connections with others.

 

This is going to be uncomfortable. And that’s the point.

 

There are so many fears, stories, and experiences that have likely caused you to bury your truths deep. You probably don’t want to be the person who’s rejected and kicked out of the proverbial tribe — that person gets eaten by lions.

 

Except there are no lions here.

 

Just other people, like you, who are ready to face their fears and rewrite their stories about what happens when they get real.

 

Okay, I’m in.  Sign me up!

 

 

“It has given me inner permission to be more direct and more awareness of the places where I avoid that. I personally felt safe to experiment with ways of showing up that are usually challenging for me. Yum, that was awesome! More, please  : ) “ Ksenia Belash, Bodymind Healing Guide

 

 

This is for you if you want:

• • • more enriching and empowering connections that make you feel seen, heard, and valued for who you really are (rather than drained)

    • To be more “in Self” when you’re with others, and not lose track of your truth, your desires, your values, or your sense of inner wellbeing

    • To learn how you really impact others, and what other people truly think when you’re being real

    • More self-acceptance and ease while with others, so anxiety doesn’t control your interactions

 

This is especially for facilitators who may struggle with:

• • • Being completely present in sessions, rather than trying to tune out the mind-chatter from your inner critic / social anxiety while trying to focus on the conversation

    • Staying grounded in yourself when your clients’ emotions run high

    • The ability to be vulnerable and invite vulnerability

 

And this is for you if doing this scares you a little… but you still feel drawn to this work.

 

While I think anyone can benefit, this work can be especially helpful for chronic people pleasers—those who tend to hide their true feelings to maintain harmony and avoid hurting or upsetting others.

 

 

 

Honestly, this isn’t for everyone. If you’re not up for some discomfort and vulnerability, if your response to emotional questions = “fine” (or other 1-word responses), if you get overwhelmed or destabilized in groups, or are uncomfortable with profanity — this won’t be a good fit.

 

What this is NOT… I would never suggest you share everything with everyone, or sharing everything all the time. We’re not throwing tact out of the window. We’re not saying what we really think when it’s not safe, helpful, or appropriate. And ‘being real’ is not the same as being a jerk. What you will be doing is becoming more aware of what you hold back, and building the ability to share your thoughts and feelings openly, so you can be more present with others. Regardless of what you do, or don’t, say. You’ll practice speaking with ownership, while considering the impact your words have on others and make repairs if needed.

 

Learning to unmask and be more real is incredibly liberating… but it’s far from easy.

 

Here are the top reasons why it’s hard:

1. 1. 1. We make ourselves vulnerable to rejection and judgment when we reveal our true selves to people.

      2. We may hold outdated ideas or ‘rules’ about what is allowed, wanted, or helpful in a particular situation.

      3. For facilitators, it can be hard to know if and when disclosing our experience with our clients is appropriate. So we may keep our lips sealed to avoid the slightest risk of causing harm.

      4. Fear. Plain and simple.

 

Why it’s worth doing anyway:

• • • It’s a great first step (or further step) to recover from people-pleasing.

    • Saying what you really think and feel invites others to do the same — liberating everyone to be more authentic and true to themselves.

    • You’ll feel more energized because you’re not expending energy on hiding, masking, or ruminating on what you’ve just said.

    • You’ll feel safer with people and gain confidence, making social interactions a lot easier and less draining.

    • You’ll become a much more present and mindful facilitator, able to deeply listen to your clients with less ‘noise’.

 

 

“It was so valuable to practice bringing myself forward with whatever was happening for me, as well as sitting with and observing the discomfort of feeling missed or impacting someone in a particular way. I didn’t expect to gain so much awareness of my reactions.” L. V., Psychotherapist

 

 

I will help you:

1. 1. 1. see your relational “blind spots”—the fears, stories, ‘shoulds’, coping behaviours, etc. that get in the way of you speaking up or making real contact with people.

      2. feel more “right with yourself” by normalizing, validating, and reality-checking your experience, and

      3. stay better connected to yourself when you’re with others so you can bring more of you, and your gifts, to every interaction

 

 

The Details 
(If you missed them up top 😉.)

 

When:

The mini intensive will be 4 hours long,

(including breaks**)

and held on [date TBA],

from 11 am to 3 pm Eastern

( convert to your time-zone )

 

**There will be a 20-min “meal” break, plus two 5-min “bio” breaks, as needed. Break times are not set in advance.

 

 

Where:

We will meet live online

via Zoom video conferencing. 

 

Cost:

Early Bird:  122

( if applied for and paid by TBA EOD )

 

Full Price:  166

( if paid after )

 

( Currency: US dollars if you live in US, UK, or EU. Everyone else pays Canadian.)

 

Additional Perks: the session will be recorded and shared—privately to participants only, and taken down after one month—so you can easily review if you’d like a discounted relational-confidence-coaching or relational debrief session if you book within a week of the event: 100 dollars for a 75-min session (normally 150 for a single).

 

There are only eight spots available to ensure everyone gets enough attention and support.

 

 

“THAT was bomb dot com. Seriously really good program and Josh did an awesome job with the facilitation. It was valuable for me to practice opening up to others and feeling vulnerable. I think this program gave me a nice nudge of confidence!” Dana Ellis, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

 

 

Next Steps

 

Any questions? Feel free to reach out using the form below. And if you’re ready to apply, send me a message and I’ll send you the application form shortly. Then, if everything looks good, we’ll arrange payment to secure your spot. The registration deadline is _____, by end of day.